flirting with honesty
my old friend, Craig recently got divorced and is now out on the dating scene again. so, uummm, ladies, you’ve been warned. just kidding. After being married for so long, I can’t imagine going through that whole process again. I’m sure it’s tough finding a compatible person who will accept you for who you are, warts and all. Just think about it, when you’re dating, you put on your best game face but is that actually being fair to the other person? They need to see the real you: the you with bits of spaghetti stuck on the sides of your mouth, the you that whines endlessly when sick, the you that looks like death the morning after a night of heavy drinking. I suppose your partner will find out in due time but why give them a false impression from the very get go. You know, if I was out on the market again, I’d do things a bit differently. Forget the traditional dating dance of making a great first impression. Why not just be daring and present yourself as exactly who you are? I know that’s going against the usual protocol in meeting someone new but take a cue from George Costanza in “the Opposite” episode from the show Seinfield. Remember the episode where he notices an attractive woman at their local hangout and his immediate impulse was to NOT go up to talk to her?
George : So what? What am I supposed to do?
Elaine : Go talk to her.
George : Elaine, bald men, with no jobs, and no money, who live with their parents, don’t approach strange women.
Jerry : Well here’s your chance to try the opposite. Instead of tuna salad and being intimidated by women, chicken salad and going right up to them.
George : Yeah, I should do the opposite, I should.
Jerry : If every instinct you have is wrong, then the opposite would have to be right.
George : Yes, I will do the opposite. I used to sit here and do nothing, and regret it for the rest of the day, so now I will do the opposite, and I will do something!
( He goes over to the woman )
George : Excuse me, I couldn’t help but notice that you were looking in my direction.
Victoria : Oh, yes I was, you just ordered the same exact lunch as me.
( George takes a deep breath )
George : My name is George. I’m unemployed and I live with my parents.
And he ends up getting the girl!! So, I say, go against the grain the next time you meet a “new someone”. Be honest from the very get-go and let the person accept you for exactly who you are. In fact, use George’s line from the Seinfeld episode – “My name is George. I’m unemployed and I live with my parents”. If she’s still interested in you after that opening line, you are in like Flynn. As a matter of fact, I tested my theory out in the virtual world with Ultimate Flirting Championship game on the Extreme Style by VO5 website. I put together my own virtual character online and chatted up with the ladies. It’s a fun game but unfortunately none of them took to my George Costanza opening line. But I still stand by my theory and I think the “painfully honest” approach is still the way to go.
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